What it is
You notice a problem. You solve it on your own. The other person never learns it existed. Efficiency goes up, and contact goes down.
It’s different from choosing, openly, to carry a cost for your team. The pattern is the silent version: it makes you necessary without making you known.
How it shows up for me
I do this a lot, and it looks like competence. At work and at home, I’d rather fix the thing than have the awkward conversation about the thing.
The question I still can’t always answer: when is absorbing the right move, and when is it avoidance wearing competence?
Go next
- Locus of control, where carrying everything turns into control.
- Communication
- Efficiency