What it is
Pure love is love without the vampire exchange: no performance, no hidden invoice, no need to be validated in return. It’s the kind of attachment that becomes available when your nervous system is calm and you’re not operating from scarcity.
It isn’t a higher kind of person. It’s a state, and most of us visit it more than we live in it.
How it shows up for me
I notice I can only love like this when I’m rested and not afraid. When I’m depleted, my love starts keeping receipts. So part of loving better, for me, is just sleeping and eating and breathing.